Dealing online dating rejection
Hate to be the bearing of bad news, but let’s just say that that site isn’t known for attracting men who are terribly picky. Many of those guys are taking you out in the hopes of hooking up. That would explain a good portion of the rejection that you are experiencing.I highly doubt that the majority of men you’re meeting on OK Cupid are actually looking for a relationship. The other contributing factor is probably that you’re disappointing these men somehow.They don't want to feel they are 'just another guy'.
If you communicated by text messages or email for a while, and then they wanted to discontinue, you have the past emails to go over. Men are often turned off by a woman who doesn't show enough interest in them.Because our ancestors survived by being a part of a tribe, this need remains inside us and means that memories of rejection are stronger and more easily remembered than those of physical pain.Give it a go yourself – thinking of some of your most painful memories will no doubt bring back emotionally painful thoughts over those times when you were in physical pain.Believe me, most men are so much better at this online dating thing than we are. (But keep in mind that men, especially men dating in their 40s, 50s and beyond, still have the same dating challenges we do; sometimes worse.) So just know this, and heed my advice to let the feeling of online rejection wash over you.They get told ‘no’ wayyyy more than we do, but they understand that this is a process, accept that and keep going. Let’s separate true rejection with what you consider as online rejection. Guys in their older years have the statistical advantage – there are more of us (women over 40 looking for love) and fewer of them (men over 40 doing the same). “I’d figure he probably went off to live his busy life and, since he didn’t really know me, I just kind of dropped out of his mind. Also heed my advice about how to make online dating work best for you. One advantage to being a woman over 40 is that you have the perspective of a life well lived.